Keys to educate emotions


The adult should favor a good practice of emotional education.

Accept and allow crying. Allow expressing, without prohibitions, the emotions that children feel. For example, whether a boy or a girl has the right to express their sadness. So, it would not take place to tell a child, "don't cry," but yes: "if you need to cry, cry." Crying is a way to ask for help. When it is a baby, it can mean hunger, pain, anger, that has become dirty, "I want you to take me" or "leave me alone." Some ways to suppress emotions are: "Don't cry!" "What nonsense!" "It will happen to you; it's nothing," "The most important thing is what happens to me, not you."
The negative is also essential. Do not eliminate negative emotions; you have to live both positive and negative emotions for good emotional learning. Feeling fear, anguish, guilt, or shame is as crucial as feeling joy, happiness, love, or affection; both offer a message from the person.
Emotions have names. Teach the child to express and name feelings. A baby has no words to say things. His first language is crying. When you learn to speak, if the adult has offered you an emotional learning model based on the psychological understanding of the child and the person, you can express and name your emotions.


Emotions are legitimate. If the child is not able to express them, since during the first months of life the feelings that are manifested are spontaneous, it is essential that when he cries or gets angry, the adult allows him to do so and help him name him. For example: "you feel angry because I have not played as you wanted." As well as giving messages such as: "I understand that you feel angry, and I still love you." That is, remind him that we continue to love him since the child can generate incorrect meanings, he can interpret that if we get angry with them, or if they get mad, the adult will stop loving them. Telling him verbally that is not the case allows him to make a correct understanding and emotional acceptance.


Contemplate emotional language through the body and the word. Joy is shown through a smile and a verbal message: "I feel happy."
Make the child feel valuable, that it is essential and that both his needs and his reality are taken into account. Emotion is a movement that starts from the inside and expresses itself on the outside. It is the movement of emotional life that identifies the person.


Mistakes are important. Allow the child to be wrong and learn to be more emotionally autonomous. Increasingly, the child will understand his emotions and become aware of his feelings and will not need so much of the adult to calm down.


Socialize in prepared spaces. Prepare spaces for the child to establish healthy social relationships. The child has to interact with others, and from a very young age, they can do so if the path to an interpersonal relationship is facilitated through prepared play spaces where they need and look for others.


Emotions can be regulated. Make them understand that emotion must not necessarily derive a particular behavior, but those emotions can be controlled. For example, violence should not be derived from anger.


Encourage the learning and development of empathy in the child. Therefore, the adult is the one who should help the child's education take into account the perspective of the other, help to understand their points of view, their feelings and emotions. This will contribute to coexistence and relationship with others.